A toxic family is one in which family members consistently exhibit harmful behaviors toward other family members. While conflict is an expected part of any family dynamic, a toxic family manages conflict in ways that are harmful to one or more members. There is a consistent pattern of toxic interactions in a toxic family. Being harshly criticized, having unrealistic standards set for you, and your needs not being met are all signs of a toxic family.
How can I tell if someone in my family is toxic?
You can tell if your family is toxic by looking for signs like feeling anxious, depressed, inadequate, or sad around them. Other indicators include being harshly criticized, having unrealistic expectations placed on you, and not having your needs met.
Mental illnesses caused by toxic families
The Pygmalion effect
The Pygmalion effect is simply the roles that children adopt as a result of their parents’ influence. This means that everything a parent desires or fears for their children is realized by them.
So every time you say things to your child like “you are too lazy” or “you have a bad character,” you may be seriously influencing them.
Fatal Affection
Many parents or families tell their children, “Nobody can love you more than we can.” If the child takes this literally, he or she may believe that even though he or she is well loved in the family, he or she does not deserve other love.
The most serious issue with this is that it frequently leads to children remaining silent in the face of extreme situations such as emotional abuse or maltreatment.
Parents who are overly protective
Overprotectiveness can lead to issues such as emotional dependency, which means that young children will struggle with this issue well into adulthood. As a result, it is critical to strike a balance and avoid overprotection.
Do you want a child who is insecure? Do you want to raise a child who is insecure? Because that is what overprotection can lead to, as well as serious emotional problems that are difficult to overcome.
Wishes and insecurities
How often have you witnessed a couple’s crisis involving a child? You may not want to admit it, but we are often so preoccupied with our problems that we neglect our children at home. This has a profound impact on everyone.
Furthermore, many families project their problems and insecurities onto their children, putting them under a lot of stress. Children should never feel pressed! Children are not to blame for adult-adult conflicts.
You gradually realize that people are not fighting against you. They try to hide their unrealized personalities, unloved childhoods, and lack of self-worth with achievements. Don’t take it personally; you’re just the target of this war. Sometimes the only issue is with the subject.
Love you ! , you love yourself too!